On Gratitude

By Bob Schaffer, Headmaster

When learning a foreign language, among the first phrases memorized is one of thanksgiving. Gracias, syeh-syeh, danke, spah-see-boh, merci, mahalo, dya-koo-yoo – in any language, “thank you” is typically the first verbalized interjection.

From an early age, children are taught to say “thank you” in return for any kindness great or small. Showing gratitude is a universal response to another’s generosity.

It is a human act reinforced by habit in youth, internalized to sincerity as one matures. Though gratitude might be expected, acts of gratitude are most meaningful when they are sincere and voluntary.

The word gratitude comes from the Latin gratus meaning “grace.” The Roman statesman and philosopher Cicero regarded gratitude “the mother of all virtues.”

Genuine gratitude is deeper than saying “thank you.” A virtuous leader transcends such reflexive habits becoming suffused with an innate disposition toward earnest gratefulness.

A sure virtue, gratitude stems from the cardinal virtue of justice. As such, the appropriate expression of gratitude is unique to each particular expression of generosity.

True gratitude is an acknowledgment of varying degrees of indebtedness owed to various causes. In parsing the nuances of gratitude, St. Thomas Aquinas identified a hierarchy of causes warranting differing degrees of gratitude.

In religion, for example, Aquinas described gratitude to God as “worship” – acts of indebtedness to the giver of all things. For parents, gratitude is reflected as an honor. For superiors, such as bosses or teachers, gratitude is displayed through observance and attentiveness.

What each benefactor is due depends upon the gravity of the gift. In all cases, there are three distinct parts of gratitude that should be demonstrated.

The first is recognition of the gift received. Second, is an outward expression of thankfulness. Third is repayment of the favor in some suitable way according to one’s station and ability.

When possible, a repayment of gratitude should be greater than the gift. It should acknowledge the kind gesture was extended freely and without obligation.

Finally, good leaders should be prone to being generous to the ungrateful. Since developing the virtue of gratitude is a responsive function of an initial favor, initiating exchanges of kindness is the most direct way to influence another away from the depravity of ingratitude.

Showing gratitude promotes happiness. A culture of gratitude promotes justice, humility, respect, and honor. Gratitude discourages the harmful trappings of excessive pride and selfishness.

Habits of gratitude are actively promoted at LCHS. We simultaneously foster a deeper appreciation for the fullest meaning of gratitude, so scholars may develop a cheerful character distinctly infused with the cherished virtue of gratitude.